Sure we love shopping, doing our nails & traveling the world – but sometimes all we need is a good heart to heart talk with our girlfriends about the things that are on our minds. So, starting today, we want to introduce a new post series on The Daily Dose, where YOU get to tell US whats on your mind and we’ll chat a little about the things you love or that upset you.
Certainly you all know the feeling of this first discussion round: you and your partner are a great team and make a good match, you get along with each other perfectly (most of the time). But, there are also plenty of times where you fight like squabblers over nothing at all and then there’s that real apocalyptic mood in your relationship, where the whole thing seems to be going down the drain. Everything the other person says or does drives you nuts, and you can’t seem to do anything right without making him or her angry. Then, on the other hand, there’s this one couple in your circle of friends that always makes you feel like your relationship really sucks, because they make it seem like it’s peace, love and harmony all of the time. Well, here’s the news: either they’re really good actors OR they actually have a pretty boring relationship. Because what better way is there to thoroughly get to know your love other than by expressing feelings, setting up limits, testing one another and bearing with the weaknesses and crazy moods of your “better” half. Fight is necessary. Fight is progress. Fight is good! What’s way worse than fighting is having nothing to say at all – that’s basically the end of every relationship, because a relationship is defined by “relating” to each other and understanding each other, fighting included.
We here at The Daily Dose have been in solid relationships for years, but that doesn’t mean they come easy or that we are simply “lucky”. Many times people ask us how we do it, and the answer is pretty simply: we fight! We have weeks at a time where nothing seems to be going right, but we stick by each other. We try to understand the other person and their problems, and we work through those problems together. Sometimes we scream at each other, sometimes doors are shut a little louder than normally, and sometimes we sit on the bathroom floor and cry hysterically. But in the end, we still have each other! What we’re trying to tell you is that no relationship is perfect. There comes a time when those butterflies fade a bit, when you start to get comfortable in your daily routine and when fights pop up more often. But don’t run from it the first chance you get, don’t give up too easy. All good things are worth fighting for!
So, today it is your turn to share your experiences – tell us, what fighting means to you? What does it do to your relationship? Do you think it’s a necessary evil or the road to success? Heart to heart – let’s talk!